Meh kita bermaaf-maaf... tak payah tunggu Hari Raya!

And hold fast, all together, by the rope which Allah (stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves; and remember with gratitude Allah's favour on you; for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His Signs clear to you: That ye may be guided. (Ali-Imran: 103)

Pernah bergaduh dengan seorang sahabat sehingga tak bertegur sapa?

Bila check balik, yang digaduhkan pun bukannya benda besar pun. Bukan berkait dengan akidah atau hal-hal bida'ah dan maksiat (yang mana diperbolehkan untuk tidak bertegur sapa). Tapi benda-benda kecil je.

Kalau hal berkait dengan agama pun, nasihat perlu diulangi dengan sabar (rujuk surah Al-Asr; By (the Token of) Time (through the ages), Verily Man is in loss, Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy.).

Benda-benda kecil. Mungkin salah faham. Mungkin terlepas cakap. Setuju ataupun tidak, SEMUA manusia ada buat silap. Jadi bermaaf-maaflah. Tak payah tunggu Hari Raya.

Selalu kita tengok buruk orang dan tengok baik kita. Terbalik sebenarnya. Yang disuruh ialah tengok baik orang dan tengok buruk kita. Inilah yang akan melawan ego kita. Baru kita sedar yang nobody is perfect.

Aku dulu masa sekolah menengah dulu pernah la tak bertegur sapa ni. Berbulan-bulan juga lah. Benda kecil je. Maklumlah budak-budak.

Bila selidik-selidik, dalam agama tak bertegur sapa ni adalah perkara yang sangat besar. Terutamanya antara sedara seagama. Amaran yang sangat keras!

Abu Hurairah r.a. narrates that Rasulullah s.a.w. said: It is not lawful for a Muslim to keep apart from his brother, for more than three days. Whoever stayed apart for more than three days and died, entered Hell. (Abu Dawud)

Amacam, keras tak? So mana nak letak ego tu? Tapi yang bagusnya...

Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari r.a. narrates that indeed Rasulullah s.a.w. said: It is not lawful for a Muslim to keep away from his brother for more than three nights; for when they meet, they turn their faces. The better one of them is he, who first offers salam. (Muslim)

Sapa paling cepat reda marah, bagilah salam kat kawan kita tu. Ustaz Shamsuri cakap dalam kuliah bulanan dia, kalau orang yang kita bagi salam tu tak menjawab dia berdosa. Dan kalau dia terus bermusuhan, amaran dalam hadith pertama kat atas tu tak jatuh pada kita, tapi jatuh pada dia.

Kalau mereka meluahkan perasaan tak puashati kat kita, jangan la pulak kita melaga-lagakan mereka tu. Sebaliknya, kitalah jadi orang tengah untuk mencari titik damai. Why? Sebab ada ganjaran menunggu untuk kita woooo...

Abu Darda r.a. narrates that Rasulullah s.a.w. said: Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than fasting, sadaqah and salat? The Sahabah replied: Certainly, do tell us! He answered: It is putting things right between people; for undoubtedly discord between people is destructive.
(Tirmidhi)

Amacam? Sudah sedia untuk bermaaf-maafan?